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So, when life hands you problems, are you able to take them in stride and laugh off the inevitable, unavoidable hassles and annoyances that come your way?  You see, some of the tricks to being successful in life are useful in encouraging romance in your marriage or relationship, too . . . and one of those important romantic ideas is having a sense of humor!

Learn to see the lighter side of things

In many instances,taking your relationship too seriously is more dangerous to your romance than not taking your relationship seriously enough.  Developing a sense of humor about events that you can’t change is a great way to make your relationship more resilient, fend off a breakup or divorce, and make your husband, wife, girlfriend or boyfriend more comfortable with you.

So, does that mean you should laugh off every serious problem that life hands you?  Of course not!  But having a sense of humor does mean that you allow yourself to see the lighter side of situations that you can’t change . . . and let yourself laugh off your challenges every now and then!

Don’t let minor annoyances gain control of your life!

Illnesses and threats to your relationship or marriage are hardly humorous, and laughing in the face of serious problems such as these would be silly and probably make your sweetheart feel pretty rotten.  But taking smaller problems and annoyances too seriously is giving outside influences more control over your happiness than they deserve.  By developing a thicker skin and laughing at minor challenges, you rob them of their power to control your life . . . and you make your romance even stronger!

So the next time you feel like getting upset over something that really has no consequence, try laughing at the annoyance instead.  You’ll be surprised at how much it improves your life, your romance . . . and you!

If you’re one of the many people out there who think that holding hands is a simple, boring routine that adds nothing to a marriage or romantic relationship, think again!  It’s time to stop worrying about public display of affection . . . and start learning how to hold hands!

Hand holding, if done correctly, can add a new dimension of intimacy and excitement to your romance . . . but only if you let it!  There are tons of romantic ideas to transform regular hand holding into a passionate, playful experience that can add a much-needed spark to your relationship from the very first caress.

That’s right: there’s more than one way to hold hands with your wife, husband, boyfriend or girlfriend . . . and lovers can find a unique method specially suited to add romance to any situation.  Use the list below to come up with your own romantic ideas for holding hands with your sweetheart, but don’t stop there!  Combine techniques, experiment and come up with your own hand holding ideas specially suited to your unique romantic relationship.

Top Ten Hand Holding Techniques

1. The Passive Hand Hold

This is hand holding in its simplest form: your sweetheart’s hand gently but firmly cupped in yours.  It’s most appropriate for public environments where you want to remain tasteful and avoid looking “clingy,” but is still a great, effective way to add physicality to your romantic relationship.

2. The Intertwined Fingers Hand Hold

A step up from the Passive Hand Hold, Intertwined Fingers provides a firmer grip and an increased sense of intimacy.  This type of hand holding is perfect while taking a romantic walk together, but it can have a downside of sweaty palms!

3. The One-Finger Hand Hold

Holding just one of your lover’s fingers is a more romantically playful method for times when you’re feeling flirtatious.  This is the easiest hand hold for your sweetheart to pull away from, but is still a great way to add some fun intimacy to the mix.

4. The Massaging Hand Hold

Turning a simple hand-holding session into a relaxing massage is a wonderful romantic surprise to give your sweetheart.  There’s an art to romantic massage and an unlimited number of ways you can caress your lover’s hands and give attention to each finger.  This hand-holding method is best used while sitting down!

5. The Two-Hand Hold

Here’s another technique that is tough to do while standing, but one of the best ways to add some serious physicality and intimacy to hand holding.  Taking your sweetheart’s hand in both of yours will give them a deep sense of security, importance and calm.

6. The Palm Caress Hand Hold

This method is an intimate, secret way to tastefully caress your lover without being noticed by others around you.  Starting with the Passive or Intertwined Fingers technique, use one of your fingers to gently rub your sweetheart’s palm in an up-and-down or swirling fashion.

7. The Kissing Hand Hold

The Kissing Hand Hold is perfect for intimate situations when you’re alone with your special someone, and is often combined with the Two-Hand Hold.  Clean hands are perfect for kissing, and you should never be afraid to shower your lover’s fingertips, palms and wrists with romantic pecks!

8. The Gentle Pinching Hand Hold

This one isn’t right for every romantic relationship, and can be a little too playful and rough for some couples.  But gently pinching your lover’s fingertips and palms, if done correctly, can be an exciting, fun experience for you and your sweetheart, as long as you make sure you don’t do it too hard.

9. The Warm-Up Hand Hold

When it’s cold outside, there’s no better way to warm up your fingers than by having them caressed and rubbed lovingly by your favorite person in the world.  Don’t make your sweetheart use a heater when you have two perfectly good, warm hands to help them out!  Combine this technique with the Massaging Hand Hold for a great effect.

10. The The Morse-Code Hand Hold

This is the most unorthodox and interactive hand-holding technique, but can be a heck of a lot of fun if you and your lover can master it.  Agree ahead of time of a phrase that you want to share with each other silently–such as “I love you”–and assign it a number of squeezes that correspond with the syllables in the phrase.  Your sweetheart will remember that when you squeeze three times it means “I-love-you” . . . and can respond with a four-squeeze “I-love-you-too”!