If you’re wondering how to cope with a sexless marriage you may be looking in the wrong place. If you are living in a sexless marriage you shouldn’t be trying to cope with it, you should be looking for ways to cure it. Nearly one in five couple are living in a sexless relationship, this means that when you go to the store, bar or restaurant that if there are ten couples in any place the likelihood is that two of those couples have this problem.
Society puts a lot of pressure on couples; they not only need to work harder to afford the nicer things in life but they also need to earn more money due to inflation, increasing house prices, the credit crunch and the cost of raising children so it’s not surprising that we can’t function normally all of the time.
If you’ve tried to analyze this situation, chances are that you’ve got around to playing the blame game. Many people try to work out the problem without the right information, they feel that because it’s them that want sex and their partner who doesn’t then it must be the partners fault. Putting the blame on your spouse can be the end of your marriage, what if the real reason is down to you but the symptoms have come out in your partner?
Instead of wondering how to cope with a sexless marriage you should put your efforts into fixing it, coping with it means that you have given up.
In this day and age men and women both work to support a household, sometimes the woman can earn more than her husband which makes him feel inferior. Some women stay at home to look after the kids and end up feeling unappreciated which can cause them to feel depressed, these are just two potential causes for sexless marriages, there are hundreds more.
I am not going to list hundreds of causes of a sexless marriage because each marriage is different, each couple is different and unless you know exactly what caused this problem for you! It will take you a very long time to fix the marriage.
Don’t give up too easily; so many people with this problem seem to think that the easiest way to deal with this is just to get a divorce, what happens after that? If you love your spouse then you need to stay together and work through this problem.
By reading this far you’ve taken the first steps to fixing your sexless marriage, as I said earlier it’s not about how to cope with a sexless marriage, it’s about working together to repair the damage and strengthen your relationship.
Sun, Nov 16, 2008
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